Semen makes women happy!

The finding that women who do not use condoms during sex are less depressed and less likely to attempt suicide than are women who have sex with condoms and women who are not sexually active, leads one researcher to conclude that semen contains powerful—and potentially addictive—mood-altering chemicals.

Study author Gordon G. Gallup, Ph.D., a psychologist at the State University of New York in Albany, also found that women who routinely had intercourse without condoms became increasingly depressed as more time elapsed since their last sexual encounter. There was no such correlation for women whose partners regularly used condoms.

Gallup's survey of 293 college women also found that those who did not use condoms were most likely to initiate sex and to seek out new partners as soon as a relationship ended. "These women are more vulnerable to the rebound effect, which suggests that there is a chemical dependency," says Gallup.

Semen contains hormones including testosterone, estrogen, prolactin, luteinizing hormone and prostaglandins, and some of these are absorbed through the walls of the vagina and are known to elevate mood.

Gallup controlled for variables including method of contraception, frequency of sexual intercourse, as well as the women's perception of their relationship. He concedes that women who regularly have sex without condoms might share personality traits that make them less susceptible to depression. But the behavior most often associated with non-condom users is sexual risk-taking, and studies have found no correlation between high-risk sexual behavior and lower rates of depression.

Gallup's study, which he deems "the first serious attempt to investigate the effect of semen chemistry on women," titillated the public and rankled some academics upon publication in Archives of Sexual Behavior. Gallup says he has since replicated the findings with a sample of 700 women and will examine whether "semen withdrawal" places women at an increased risk for depression when they are premenstrual, menopausal or have just given birth, as many women abstain from sex during these periods.

source - psychologytoday.com

THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN MEN AND WOMEN IN PICTURE

Five important tips to find love

It is never too late to find love! Whether you are young or old, a first timer or experienced, love can find you. But it sure is not that easy, most would agree. In the new era of the World Wide Web, however, the chances you shall find your ideal relationship, are higher. However, there are still a few important things you need to keep in mind, to attract that special person in your life.

1. To find love, let go of your past

You may want to find love, but maybe you are not totally able to let go of your past mis-adventures. You must learn to get over the past failed relationships, and move on psychologically. Believe that your past relationship is over and don't let the ghosts of the past haunt you. You must be ready to open your heart to new relationships. Else all your efforts at finding new love shall be wasted.

2. Learn from your mistakes

It is important to forgive yourself and others for the past mistakes, wrong-doings and failures. However, don't forget, experience is a great teacher. Make it a point to learn from your past mistakes. It will help you evolve and mature. It will also help you as you find love in the present and increase your chances at a successful and fulfilling relationship in the future.

3. Be yourself and find your ideal mate

To find love, it is important to be yourself. You cannot find love, by putting up a front to impress someone or by being someone you are not. Let people see the real you. And let someone love the person you are. Let your prospective partners see what you stand for; your beliefs, your likes or dislikes and your ideals etc. Only then will they appreciate you and show you their true colors. This will help you find the one you truly deserve.

4. Learn to recognize what you want

While it is important to be yourself to find love, it is also important to have some idea of what you want in your ideal mate. This need not be set in stone, and can always change or evolve. However, some clarity on this aspect will help you recognize your ideal partner when you meet one. Else while you date various people, you might find yourself getting confused about who is right for you. To find love, find yourself first.

5. Love can be around the corner

Be open to the possibility of finding love. You can find love anywhere. Don't restrict yourself to age old ideas of where you can find love. Love is no longer restricted to singles bars, clubs, family dinners or parties or even blind dates. In this day and age of the global web, love could be across seven oceans in another continent or just across the lane. E-love is the latest buzz word. So what are you waiting for? Take your love-life in your hands!

Love Letters After Christmas Holidays

Christmas and New Year have just passed. You had a wonderful time with all the celebrations, food and parties. What do you think made you feel all warm and fuzzy inside?

It could be the relationships that you fostered and built during this season of goodwill. Some of these relationships made you feel very happy. It could have been that you renewed a friendship with someone whom you had lost touch with for a long time. Or it could be that you repaired a relationship with that someone who had been very close to your heart at one time. Or perhaps you met someone special and would like to have a further relationship with.

You have experienced something special this Christmas and New Year. It important that you capture this moment and cement the relationship you have repaired or built with that someone special. The gift-giving time is past but a love letter is something you can write and deliver as an after-celebration gift, without being too awkward.

Love letters are rather interesting. It is the only medium by which you can focus on 'you'. How being with the other person made you feel by being with them, in their presence or even just a thought of them. And in return, the solicits a reciprocal reaction.

Well, in this period of celebration - Christmas and New Year, there are bound to be many events which you can pick up on and use in your love letter. Be very focused on the event and describe how the event made you feel. The event can be an encounter, an introduction, a unique gesture and even an achievement which made you feel loved, proud, glad, happy or perhaps helped you view that someone in a different light.

Write your love letter focusing on that specific event. Write about the event as though you were telling a story to someone else. Finally, write how the event made you feel. And then finally, write what you want to do. Perhaps you want to see the other person more often or just want to keep in touch and never to lose contact with other person.

So, make the Christmas and New Year past even more special, and send a love letter to that someone special. It does not have to be a long one and you can get more pointers from my other articles in writing them. If you put in the right amount of effort, your relationship will continue to develop and who knows the relationship could blossom into something special forever.

Putting effort and mastering the art of writing one and sharing life's wonderful moments often bring lots of joy to both the giver and the recipient.

Think of your love letter as a means of capturing life's moments shared between you and the recipient. Try it and be amazed by its effects. The best part is it does not have to be costly or difficult to do, just a little effort on your part.